12 Things you need to do for building your confidence

Confidence

Being self-confident has many advantages. It helps you perform better, noticed and appreciated for your work. This gives you a promotion and boosts. It also gives you the attention of the opposite sex. Simply put it in: It helps you to get whatever you want in life.

On the other hand, lack of self-confidence can seriously destroy your efforts and prevent you from getting what you want. This is why I decided to dedicate a complete blog post to boost your confidence. You need to remember something that this is a process. You cannot build self-confidence overnight, to do this; the following 12 ways will work best if all are applied together and consistently over time. Confidence is not something that happens to you suddenly. Although you know that you will need the time and energy to make this new habit, the good news is that you can do it. It is under your control and it is up to you that how you can make it for you.

Here are 12 things you need to do for building your confidence –

1. Use positive affirmations for yourself –

To feel more confident, you can use positive affirmations - positive statements that can remind your mind to see yourself in a better light. These include: "I am qualified", "I am a great leader", "everyone likes me", and so on. There are some ways to do this. You can write your own mantra and repeat it every morning or every evening before going to bed.

You can write positive statements on a piece of paper and put it somewhere where you will always see it, for example, you can paste it on a wall or on the fridge, you can also write your affirmation on a mirror. That’s what I did. Every morning when I'm ready, I have no choice but to see it.

2. Fake it till you make it –

Do everything and every task with as you are already done that, this is called fake it till you make it. When you pretend that you are confident then your mind will subconsciously accept that you are confident and it helps you to build real confidence.

If you want to be more self-confident, act like someone who is already confident! It may seem funny in the beginning, but it should not stop you. This is a process, and soon you will notice how natural and true this behavior becomes a part of yourself. Your mind can not differentiate between real confidence and fake thought of confidence. Usually, it accepts the thoughts which you believe is true. Use this method in your everyday life on a regular basis, and then you will see a big difference in you. Slowly this thought of fake confidence will become a part of you and you will develop a habit of confidence in you.

3. Dress smart -

If you have a lack of confidence then dressing like an authority is the easiest way to promote it. If you are like an important person, you will begin to feel the same! Smart dress is an international symbol of the situation, so no matter what country you are in, you can always wear it. Things like suits, shirts, good shoes, accessories, gadgets - all enhance our self-confidence.

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4. Speak Loud -

The way you talk and the way you project your voice is directly related to your self-confidence. Shy people keep their voices low. They do not want to attract attention, which they used to speak.

You have probably seen it yourself in meetings. It always happens that a person, the biggest, the very self-confident, is sometimes egoistic; who does not think much about others speaks loudly. And then there are people who do not talk too much, they keep quiet, and even if they ask - they speak in such a way that people cannot really listen to them.

Next time you speak in a meeting, project your voice, loudly (In a sensible manner). You will see what kind of influence it has on your confidence.

5. Sit in front of the line -

When do you usually sit in big events? Do you run to take a seat in the first line or do not you go back?

My condition is as follows, as many other people do. The reason for this is that we do not want to pay attention to us. We do not hide behind, so we do not drag the risk on the stage or ask a question. But I have to ask you something. Who usually sits in the first line of all the official company meetings? Who sits in the first line of a fashion show? The most important peoples.

By sitting in the first row you are keeping yourself among these people. You indicate to others that you are one of the most important peoples and therefore they behave accordingly. You will also see that you will start behaving like one.

You are keeping yourself out of your comfort zone - in Spotlight. The attention is upon you, the light is upon you. You have no choice but to feel confident. Once put into such a situation where there is no alternative, it is crazy that we are very quick to adapt.

6. Body language -

Body Language

The body language of confident people is different. They go long. They keep their heads up. They see in the eyes of others. They keep their bodies open too.

Whenever we feel bad about ourselves, we feel down or hurt, then we get discontinued and not only emotionally but also physically. We try to become as small as possible, so people do not notice us. We curl up, so we limit the surface of the exposure. Lack of confidence reveals itself in such physical language. One way of creating self-confidence is to adopt a body language of someone who feels confident. You can watch “TED Talks”, of famous peoples and learn their body language from them. This will help you to build self-confidence in you.

7. Take care of yourself -

Often our lack of confidence comes from the fact that we do not feel good in our skin. We have some extra kilos that we want to hide. We do not care about how we dress. Our haircuts are out of fashion. Our skin has not cared for any makeup. And so on...

Compare it to models and celebrities. They feel beautiful, they feel sexy and attractive. This enhances their confidence! Do the same for yourself. Get a good haircut. Get a manicure. Turn your wardrobe back on again. Workout to build an attractive and good physique.

Once you feel good in your skin, you will start projecting it.

8. Take advantage of your strengths -

If you focus on your deficiencies, sooner or later you will lose your confidence too much. After all, if you have a lot of things, and there are many mistakes, then that confidence is going to come from?

Rather than thinking about what you are doing and working on it, embrace your power. You can be a public speaker, or a great cook, or a very talented businessman. See all areas of your life. This will help you to believe that you are so good and can increase your value. This will build your confidence.

9. Accept Compliments -

Accept Compliments

Imagine that someone tells you, you really look good. What would you answer?

"Oh, this is an old dress." Or "Oh, I really feel tired today" sound familiar to you?

When someone congratulates you, what do you usually say?

We rarely accept a compliment. We rarely say "thank you" without saying.

But think about it if someone takes the time to tell you something good, then that is because they think that you cannot accept only one good word? Why are you tempted to humiliate it? If you have done well, then take ownership of it. Embrace it! Allow yourself to believe in all the good things that people tell you. This is the easiest and free way to boost your confidence.

10. Avoid Perfectionism -

Avoid Perfectionism 

If you aim for perfection, then you are more than a target for disappointment. It is very difficult to become perfect. You can always be better, you can always be quick, and you can always do more. Stop trying to do everything. Perfectionists usually have less self-esteem because they criticize themselves at all times. Take a look at some of the confident people around you. Are they perfect? Give yourself more acceptance and become more tolerant of your mistakes and shortcomings. They do not move away from your talents and strengths.

11. Appreciate what you have already acquired -

Our confidence depends on how successful we are. If you do not notice successes in your life, then your confidence is likely to be low. How can you assume that you are a successful person?

No matter where you are right now, I can guarantee that you have achieved much more than you thought. We want to look in the future and always compare ourselves with the better version that we want to be. Or that we should have to achieve our goals. You see the future where your whole self has wealth, happy family and a beautiful home. Then you look back and you become depressed and you begin to feel the failure to get away from your dreams. We often forget, however, how far we have already arrived, and how much we have already achieved. We rarely see in the past and see who we were a few years ago. So, always develop a habit of appreciation for those things you already have.

12. Give yourself small goals for the near future -

Our ability to achieve success is another technique to strengthen trust - and it is by adding small goals. If you are working on a big, challenging goal from the last few months, then you are feeling very adventurous. After all, you could not fulfill your goal, you did not achieve what you were about to do. It's a great way to remove it, give yourself small goals that will move you towards a big goal. Achieving small goals can help you a lot to build your self-confidence.